Some of the newly married couples do not know how to maximize their first night . Originally played lunge and breakthrough is a major activity . Al proceeds much his lackluster than satisfied . The first night not just intercourse . Furthermore unites the emotions and feelings between two people . Therefore , it should be done properly . How then wife screwed right ? Adab and procedures wife screwed truth is like that exemplified by the Prophet Muhammad .Islam is a complete religion roomates covers all aspects of teaching not to mention marriage . Speaking of marriage would not be separated from the first night . Evening dresses for married couples ought filled with the atmosphere of tenderness , affection and pleasure . Tonight
connecting with her husband on a leash and love and affection can
Eliminate anxiety and fear and the make her feel at ease with him .Mentioned here are some manners in our heritage to form a new life , may be useful : 1.truth intentions
Let the husband and wife to marry intention is to maintain the honor , based on the words of the Prophet , " Three people who have the right to God to help them : a jihad in Allah 's way, a slave ( being in an agreement between him and his master ) who wants encashment and a married who want to maintain his honor . " ( Narrated by Ahmad , Tirmidhi , Ibn Majah and Hakim from the hadeeth of Abu Hurairoh )
2.Ornate and beautify Themselves .
Should a wife to beautify herself with what is allowed to Allah swt . Basically this is allowed except against anything that is forbidden by the argument as plucking eyebrows and fur between them or scrape it , connect with other hair hair , tattoos , teeth filing to be more beautiful . Forbidden to him also forbidden to wear both on and off the wedding night that night . Allowed him adorn Themselves with gold and silver as ordinary women wear .So is the husband should memperhias himself to his wife as this is part of his intercourse in a good way . Word of Allah swt :roomates means : " But the husband , has a degree of advantage rather than his wife . " ( Surat al Baqoroh : 228 )However , Efforts should decorate Themselves REMAIN within the limits justified . Not permissible for him to wear a gold ring except silver . Not allowed him to shave his beard , his clothes extending to the ground , wearing silk except Shari'a tehadap nothing excluded .
3 . Gentle to his intercourse with his wife when
Narrated by Ahmad in al - Musnad of Asma bint Yazid ibn as Sakan said , " I never make up for the Prophet Ayesha and I went to him one day and asked her to see the beauty of Aisha . PBUH He also came with a glass of milk and he drank it and then give it to Aisha Aisha had bowed his head in shame . Asma said , " So I call it . " and I told him , " Take ( the drink) from the hands of the Prophet . " Asma said , " So Aisha took it and drank a little . "
4 . Praying for his wife .
Let the husband put his hand on her forehead and say such as the Lord the Messenger of Allah , " If one of you is married to a woman or buying a helper hold the forehead and then let the name of God Almighty and pray for blessing on to say : Allahumma Innii Asaluka Min Khoiriha Jabaltaha alaihi wa Khoiri Ma . Audzu Wa wa bika Syarri Syarri Min Ma Jabaltaha alaih - O God , I beseech thee kindness and goodness of what you give him , and I seek refuge in you than ugliness and evil that you gave him .. "
5 . Praying two rak'ahs
Narrated Ibn Syaibah of Ibn Masud , he told Abi Huraiz , " Tell him to pray two rak'ahs behind ( him ) and pray , " Allahumma Barik Lii and Barik lahum Ahlii FII FII . Allahummajma ' Bainanaa Jama'ta Ma wa bi Khoirin Farriq Bainana idza Farroqta Khoirin bi - O Allah bless me in my family and bless them in myself . O Allah satukanlah us with kindness and separate us if you want (us ) to part with kindness too . "
6 . What people are saying when jima ' or when screwed his wife .
It was narrated from Ibn Abbas that the Prophet said , " When one of you came to his wife then let him pray , " Allahumma wa Jannib Syaithon Jannibna asy asy Syaithon Rozaqtana Ma - O God shun shun us from Satan and demons than anything you rezekikan to we- Allah is Able to give them both a child who can not harmed demons forever . "
7 . Forbidden to broadcast her secret matters between husband and wife
Narrated by Ahmad from Asma bint Yazid who was sitting near the Holy Prophet along with the men and women he Prophet then said , " It could be a man tell me what he does with his wife and a wife may tell you what he does with her husband . " So they fell silent . Then I asked , " By Allah , O Messenger of real women do it as well as men , they did . " He is Allah said , " Do not do it . Indeed , it is like a vicious men relate to women on the street past demons ( evil men ) to cover (a female demon ) while people watch . "
8 . Ablution between the two jima ' although the bathroom was more mainstream
When a man and his wife screwed him want to come back to repeat the most important for him is the ablution so that it can restore energy , as narrated by Muslim from Abi Said al Khudriy said , " The Messenger of Allah said , ' If one of her then he screwed you want to do it again then berwudhulah between the two ( jima ) it . "Within a story , " Like going to the prayer ablution . " ( Narrated by Muslim ) Abu Naim added , " Surely it will return tenagannya . "Bathing more mainstream , as narrated by Abu Daud of Rafi 'that surrounds the Holy Prophet and the shower when his wife ( about to intercourse ) wife is a wife and also with this . He said , " I asked him , ' O Messenger of Allah is not enough with just one shower ? ' saw he replied , " It is more sacred . More fragrant and more clean . "
9 . Bath alone
Permissible for the husband and wife to bath together in one container , as narrated by Bukhari and Muslim from Aisha said , " I took a shower with the Messenger of Allah from one container between myself with him . Scrambling Our hands interchangeably so I said , " leave ( less water ) for me , leave me . " He said , " They were both in a state of junub . "From the above hadith , it is possible both naked and see each other with each other genitalia .Within hdits related by Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah from Ibn Muawiyah Haidah said , " I said , ' O Messenger of Allah . What is allowed and banned from our private parts ? " He replied , " Keep your nakedness except the wife or slave . " So is permissible for one of the spouses to look at the entire body of his partner and his cock touched up by this hadith , Because The genitals is a pleasure then allowed to see and touch like other body parts .
10 . Joking with his wife
Allowed to frolic and play with her in bed , as his saying of Allah , " ... Why did not the girl that you can play around with it and he can play with you . " ( Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim ) and in Muslim history , " You can be happy with him and he can be happy with you . "Between jokes and mempergaulinya well is the husband kisses though not for Jima ' . Prophet kissing and touching their wives even though they are in a state of menstruation or kiss him and touch him while he is in a state of fasting .As contained in the ash and other Shahihain from Aisha and Maimunah even diriwyatkan by Ahmad and Abu Dawood from Aisha said , " The Prophet kissed some of his wives and then he came out and did not perform ablution to pray again . " This is an argument that does not invalidate ablution kissing his wife .
11 . Allowed ' azl
Permissible for a husband to do ' azl roomates secrete semen outside her genitals , as narrated by Bukhari and Muslim from Jabir bin Abdullah said , " We do ' azl while the Qur'an is still down . " In a narration , " We did ' azl at the time of the Messenger of Allah and it is up to the Prophet and he saw not forbid it . "However the main thing is to leave ' azl Because it can reduce the enjoyment for him and for his wife , and Because It can also Eliminate the purpose of marriage is to multiply the descendants of this people , by the words of the Messenger of Allah , " Marry by you ( women ) who can bring more children bring love . Behold , I will boast of the number (quantity ) of you before all the people on the Day of Resurrection . "But not permissible for a Muslim to do ' azl forever Because it can limit and Prevent the descent .....
12 . Visiting relatives in the morning
It is advisable for him in the morning to visit the relatives who have met the invitation .. hadeeth of Anas said , " The Messenger of Allah to have a party while married to Zainab . The Muslims are fed with bread and meat . Then he saw come out to the mothers of the believers ( his wives saw) and say hello to them , pray for them and they were welcoming greetings and prayed for him , he did it on the morning after his wedding night . Next
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